Today five of the biggest pieces of my heart drove away. I so want to numb this pain of loss. My wife and kids are moving in preparation for my deployment and in order to be close to family during the duration. "Life" sucks!
Today wasn't even the worst part. The worst part was yesterday, knowing that this moment would come. Every poignant moment becoming an equally painful one with the realization that the long dreaded day was finally here:
Holding my baby boy and wishing I could relay to him just how much I love him.
Putting the kids to bed and trying to let them know that, "Daddy loves you!" Only to fight back tears as my daughter starts to cry, because she understands the import of that simple statement.
Laying down next to the two older boys who refuse to fall asleep, trying to be a reassuring presence even though it won't last past the night.
Trying to calm and reassure my wife who is constantly becoming frustrated because her flurry of activity fails to suppress the realization of what is happening, with the move and with the deployment.
Enjoying their smiles, their laughs, trying to soak in enough for a year's worth.
Dad asked to give me a blessing. Despite the differences in our philosophies, it is an extremely touching gesture. The form is really immaterial, as he reaches for every bit of strength and love and hope that he wants to share with me, everything within his power, including an appeal to a higher power, before it might ever be too late. Dad, message received. I love you, too!
Every time that I talk to those of you that I love and care so much about, our farewells have a bit more of a note of finality to them. As if to say, "Say what you need to. Now is the time." I'm reminded of how my brother called, after he had found out that I was going to be deployed, to say how upset he was with himself that he didn't stay the night the last time he was here. A wasted last chance? Well, at least a missed opportunity.
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that his life may be revealed in our mortal body. So then, death is at work in us, but life is at work in you."
- 2 Cor 4:7-11
Previous Comments:
Dear Bill,
All I know is that along with all the other cookies you'll be getting in the mail from those who love you, you'll be getting some from here, too!
God bless you! (many hugs)
McMary
Posted by McMary on September 25, 2003 at 11:25:21 AM
McMary,
What? You mean you guys don't love me?!?!
:::big, silly grin:::
Posted by HarryTick on September 25, 2003 at 04:02:29 PM
Hey Bill,
Mary is napping but i can speak for the both of us.OF COURSE WE LOVE YOU:) i was touched by your last post and can only guess at how much this deployment is costing you and your family.God Bless you my brother,i know He will redeem those days you are giving up to go so that we might all be safer here at home.thank you is not enough so i guess we'll be sending those cookies;)
Posted by mcdave on September 25, 2003 at 04:25:02 PM
Bill, thank you so much for the transparency of your heart in this post! Your wife and kids have a wonderful husband and father!
Love, Jim
Posted by the Shovel on September 25, 2003 at 06:41:54 PM
I know that's got to be tough, Bill. i wish you the very best throughout the entire ordeal, and hope that the time passes very quickly for you.
Love, vinnie
Posted by Vinnie on September 26, 2003 at 11:47:27 PM
I've been keeping up with you, but haven't felt like I had words to say... and still don't other then encouragements.
You see, I have a hard time with realities... seeing the real in the midst of so much clutter that is packed into days. So much of what you share and have shared falls into very real situations. You share your heart, your life. Could be fears, philosophy, etc.etc. but it is awesomely vacant of drama.
I so appreciate and have been blessed by your willingness to share yourself so freely. I know God is with you and will be always. My heart is opened to Him on your behalf.
Thanks so much.
Posted by Michael on September 28, 2003 at 02:23:47 AM
Bill,
Not really knowing what to write but knowing that this last piece of yours is... well... really something...
Know that you've touched (again) a deeper part of me man...
Hoping and praying this deployment flies by and that you'll be back in the arms of your loved ones safe and sound...
Keep in touch buddy.
Posted by RickinVa on September 28, 2003 at 09:41:06 PM